hey sweetie communication and honesty is the best advice i can give u ive been with my hubby 11 yrs and married 10 yrs its not easy but anything worth having isnt easy lol thats really the only advice i can give im not an expert lol tc blessed be kim
Establishing and respecting boundaries is key to any relationship.
People tend to fight about the same things time and time again. Therefore, you need to frame the issue(s) — so that both of you know what words or ways of addressing the problem don’t fly w/ the other person — and to work within those limitations.
Once you know the boundaries, it becomes about having the discipline & respect to stay within them — much like people have to abide by certain laws to avoid a societal breakdown.
I totally agree. Thank you so much for your sound advice. I agree that it would help to have a framework for the issues. It would def. help.
Thanks again
Well this is my 1st post WOW how exciting. I really wanted to comment. I have been in a relationship for 8yrs. As a couple you grow together and not always in the same way. you really need to be able to talk to your significant other as open minded & open hearted as you can be. Always remembering that this is your LIFE partner & at some point you have to really evaluate where u are in life & if he will be by your side. If at all you should be able to agree to disagree without any resentment.
I really do hope you can work your differences out. Lotz of positive energy and light your way. I hope both of you can come to an agreement. Especially about your beliefs. Lotz of love and hope.
I agree whole heartedly. Thank you very much I appreciate your advice!
Keeping a long running relationship going is hard work but well worth it if you build a solid foundation.
Thanks again.
Part 1…I was married, now divorced. Dont know if I should comment lol.
Counciling is healthy. Youre right its not something that should only be sought when you have a problem, it can be a very good detourance for problems arrising. Change is like evolution, its slow so it needs to be recognized as it occurs. The biggest problems in relationships come from either ignoring the change until its too late, or issues the person had coming into the relationship already.
Part 2… If those problems can’t be compremised, addressed, and talked about with understanding on both sides, then a lot of the time counciling can’t help. Counciling usually only works if both take part, and both are understanding. If one person is set in their ways, no professional can force them to change. Honesty, openness, & understanding are the only things that made a relationship work.
That is why mine failed. I married a Christian girl who thought my beliefs were temporary.
Marriage is a constant learning process. I have been married for 2 years to my wonderful soldier and I learn more about him every day that we are married. As far as arguments, most of the time they’re petty. Learn to give in or at least meet at a half way point. I think we as women think we constantly have to be right because the man has to give in to us because we are the “weaker” species. So learn to compromise. Also,you should know that statistically the first 3 years are the hardest!
Wow. I totally understand where you are coming from. And I am sorry to hear that. Counciling is something definitley to look into, but it does take two to participate. Hopefully things will work out in the end.
Thank you
Compromise and understanding are definite key factors in making a marriage work. I fully agree. But also BOTH parties have to be willing to compromise and work on the problems not just the one person. Thank you very much for your advice! I appreciate it!
Hopefully in 1 1/2 more years I can let you know
give and take is the key to a harmonious marriage..
I am married to a marine for 1 year and 4 months..
its too early to encouter big arguments.. but we are still adjusting to individual differences.. And I agree that the first three years are the hardest.. yes relationships are rollercoaster I agree with ups and down but no matter what happen you should hold hands tightly with the your sacred vows till death do you part…
I too am a military spouse, Wiccan, and fellow southern gal. I’ve just started watching your vlogs where I spotted you on TipToechick’s page.
I’ve been married to my husband for almost 4 years now and we have definitely had some tough times….one of them that almost ended our marriage and it was during a deployment too! Anyway, we made it through it and I just want to say…don’t give up! I recommend “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.”
Wow Thank you very much for your sweet comment! It’s so nice to meet new people that I can relate to! And man do we relate on A LOT! LOL! Thanks again girl!
Talk to you again soon for sure!
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November 6th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
hey sweetie communication and honesty is the best advice i can give u ive been with my hubby 11 yrs and married 10 yrs its not easy but anything worth having isnt easy lol thats really the only advice i can give im not an expert lol tc blessed be kim
November 6th, 2008 at 2:57 pm
Establishing and respecting boundaries is key to any relationship.
People tend to fight about the same things time and time again. Therefore, you need to frame the issue(s) — so that both of you know what words or ways of addressing the problem don’t fly w/ the other person — and to work within those limitations.
Once you know the boundaries, it becomes about having the discipline & respect to stay within them — much like people have to abide by certain laws to avoid a societal breakdown.
November 6th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
I totally agree. Thank you so much for your sound advice. I agree that it would help to have a framework for the issues. It would def. help.
Thanks again
November 6th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
thanks a lot
I reallpy appreciate the advice.
And bravo for 11 years!
November 7th, 2008 at 11:38 pm
Well this is my 1st post WOW how exciting. I really wanted to comment. I have been in a relationship for 8yrs. As a couple you grow together and not always in the same way. you really need to be able to talk to your significant other as open minded & open hearted as you can be. Always remembering that this is your LIFE partner & at some point you have to really evaluate where u are in life & if he will be by your side. If at all you should be able to agree to disagree without any resentment.
November 7th, 2008 at 11:43 pm
I really do hope you can work your differences out. Lotz of positive energy and light your way. I hope both of you can come to an agreement. Especially about your beliefs. Lotz of love and hope.
November 8th, 2008 at 10:41 pm
I agree whole heartedly. Thank you very much
I appreciate your advice!
Keeping a long running relationship going is hard work but well worth it if you build a solid foundation.
Thanks again.
November 8th, 2008 at 10:41 pm
THANKS!!
I hope so as well.
November 12th, 2008 at 2:58 am
Part 1…I was married, now divorced. Dont know if I should comment lol.
Counciling is healthy. Youre right its not something that should only be sought when you have a problem, it can be a very good detourance for problems arrising. Change is like evolution, its slow so it needs to be recognized as it occurs. The biggest problems in relationships come from either ignoring the change until its too late, or issues the person had coming into the relationship already.
November 12th, 2008 at 3:03 am
Part 2… If those problems can’t be compremised, addressed, and talked about with understanding on both sides, then a lot of the time counciling can’t help. Counciling usually only works if both take part, and both are understanding. If one person is set in their ways, no professional can force them to change. Honesty, openness, & understanding are the only things that made a relationship work.
That is why mine failed. I married a Christian girl who thought my beliefs were temporary.
November 12th, 2008 at 6:00 am
Marriage is a constant learning process. I have been married for 2 years to my wonderful soldier and I learn more about him every day that we are married. As far as arguments, most of the time they’re petty. Learn to give in or at least meet at a half way point. I think we as women think we constantly have to be right because the man has to give in to us because we are the “weaker” species. So learn to compromise. Also,you should know that statistically the first 3 years are the hardest!
November 12th, 2008 at 3:00 pm
Wow. I totally understand where you are coming from. And I am sorry to hear that. Counciling is something definitley to look into, but it does take two to participate. Hopefully things will work out in the end.
Thank you
November 12th, 2008 at 3:01 pm
Compromise and understanding are definite key factors in making a marriage work. I fully agree. But also BOTH parties have to be willing to compromise and work on the problems not just the one person. Thank you very much for your advice! I appreciate it!
Hopefully in 1 1/2 more years I can let you know
November 13th, 2008 at 9:03 am
give and take is the key to a harmonious marriage..
I am married to a marine for 1 year and 4 months..
its too early to encouter big arguments.. but we are still adjusting to individual differences.. And I agree that the first three years are the hardest.. yes relationships are rollercoaster I agree with ups and down but no matter what happen you should hold hands tightly with the your sacred vows till death do you part…
November 13th, 2008 at 9:17 am
thanks for the great advice girl! its nice to know there are so many out there who have been through similar things!
thanks again!
November 14th, 2008 at 8:02 pm
Never been married. My advice is not to. Oops…too late. Fall back position–get out before you’re saddled with children!
Sorry sweetie–but you asked!
November 17th, 2008 at 7:00 pm
hahah. thanks, i appreciate any and all advice
December 7th, 2008 at 2:59 am
I too am a military spouse, Wiccan, and fellow southern gal. I’ve just started watching your vlogs where I spotted you on TipToechick’s page.
I’ve been married to my husband for almost 4 years now and we have definitely had some tough times….one of them that almost ended our marriage and it was during a deployment too! Anyway, we made it through it and I just want to say…don’t give up! I recommend “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.”
December 9th, 2008 at 4:53 pm
Wow
Thank you very much for your sweet comment! It’s so nice to meet new people that I can relate to! And man do we relate on A LOT! LOL! Thanks again girl!
Talk to you again soon for sure!